1. nursing homes January 13, 2011 @ 3:57 pm

    Thanks for some quality points there. I am kind of new to online , so I printed this off to put in my file, any better way to go about keeping track of it then printing?

  2. starfish January 13, 2011 @ 10:11 pm

    I’m not sure if you mean – how you can be updated when I add stuff to the blog? Or – is there an alternative to printing out this stuff? As far as avoiding printing it, the only suggestion I can make is copying the entire thing and pasting it into a word document that you could later read at your leisure without being online. As far as updates, other than signing up for a RSS feed (which I think notifies you whenever something new is posted here, but I have never tried it so don’t know for sure), you can sign up on an informal email list and I will just email you whenever I post something. I hope this was helpful. I am new to blogs myself. Thanks for the comment!

  3. Lily January 15, 2011 @ 1:53 am

    very good, my friend.

  4. Registered nurse January 21, 2011 @ 6:24 am

    Do you people have a facebook fan page? I looked for one on twitter but could not discover one, I would really like to become a fan!

  5. starfish January 27, 2011 @ 11:57 am

    Well, there is a basic facebook page – nothing fancy. I am going to try to figure out how to link it to this page so that fans will be notified of new posts.. Just do a search for “Age of Anxiety” and look for the photo of WH Auden. Thanks!

  6. Marcos January 27, 2011 @ 8:53 pm

    These posts are great! (Especially this one, because it has me as a guest star!) It’s always refreshing to get a clear thinker’s take on our nation’s illogical idiosyncrasies. Regarding the topic of good-smelling masculinity, I’d like to mention memories I have of my grandfather, a manly man who smelled like pine trees and fresh leather. I attribute this scent signature, in part, to an archaic substance known as aftershave. People don’t seem to use that stuff, anymore. There was also a time when cologne was associated with masculinity, though nowdays cologne is probably more closely associated with greasy creeps like the type seen on that Jersey Shore show.

  7. starfish February 3, 2011 @ 11:37 am

    Thanks, Marcos, for the comment! Now that you mention it, I too recall memories of my father’s aftershave – a good thing. I guess, men don’t use that anymore? Is this because everyone is doing that 5 o’clock shadow thing, or some sort of beard/goatee thing, or the I-want-to-look-like-a-derelict-train-hopper-even though-all-I-really-do-is-hang-out-at-hipster-cafes-and-ride-my-over-priced-bicycle-with-only-one-gear-and-feel-self-righteous-about-it? Of course, the Castro has its own special population of men who wear way too much cologne that wafts behind them half a block behind it’s so strong.. Another good dad smell I remember is from his smoking a pipe sometimes.

Why does my cat seem effeminate?

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The other day I was watching my cat wash himself and it seemed to me that he was not the most masculine of cats. And then it occurred to me: why can’t Oliver be masculine and concerned with cleanliness at the same time? Or for that matter, why can’t he be snuggly, lithe and devoid of negative feelings without seeming somehow feminine? I’ve often thought that he was most likely bisexual, possibly a bisexual goth boy – not completely gay because he really does seem to love EVERYONE. Contrast this with my old cat, a gender dysphoric female cat who was constantly mistaken for a boy because of her butch swagger and crabby disposition. She pretty much only liked me and my drummer friends, and didn’t seem to have much affection for femmes.. She was a butch on butch type cat, I guess. But anyways, back to the whole cleanliness thing. Why is being clean associated with being a woman, so to speak? I can’t even get into the other stuff in regards to gender (ability to show affection, gracefulness, non-hostility) because that’s such a huge topic best analyzed by the experts, I suspect. But hygiene – let’s talk about that!

Recently I was at a diner, eating lunch with my friend, Marcos. When I got up to go to the bathroom, I was greeted by a big dude who grunted unintelligibly at me as he came out of the bathroom. (What the grunt was about, I have no idea.) But not only did he neglect to wash his hands, but he also failed to flush the toilet after using it. Gross, right? Well even grosser was the fact that according to Marcos, he then proceeded to pick french fries off of his FRIEND’s plate and eat them with his nasty, soiled hands! Did his friend realize that the nasty dude didn’t wash his hands before touching his food? Probably not. But he probably wouldn’t have cared because he looked like a DUDE as well, if you know what I mean. In truth, they were part of a whole group of loud, take-up-a-lot-of-space, white guys who Marcos postulated were a rugby team from a nearby private school. This was in the Outer Sunset, so it was weird to see so many white people in one place, which is why Marcos was convinced they were prep school kids. But seriously, why are some guys so dirty? I have known some unnamed men who wear the same underwear for days on end, never bathing. I have worked with guys who clearly don’t take regular showers or use deodorant or wash their clothes, judging by the strong odors emanating from them. I don’t think some of them even brush their teeth because they have got the breath of death! Now I’m not saying women can’t be nasty too, but odds are that if someone in the elevator stinks, it’s probably not the cute little brunette in the flower print dress; it’s the big dude with the stained T-shirt and dried soup in his beard!

I think we need a gender revolution where you can be clean and still a manly man. And I’m not talking about metrosexuals: they’re just annoying posers. I mean, MANLY MEN. It should be OK for them to smell nice, or at least like something pleasant like coffee, or fresh bread, or maybe watermelon, I don’t know – anything other than sour BO. Also, I think it’s time for people to stop blowing their noses on the sidewalk, but that’s another topic.

starfish @ January 7, 2011

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